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Freedom

Often it is scary for parents “freedom to do what I want to do” and “what if the child does not choose what the child needs to work on. When the need to work on maths, science Hindi, English, history comes from our own thinking…………there is no freedom. When the need to work on the […]

Questioning 10th / 12th and college

Board certificate and college degree or gaining skills out of one’s own interest? All are good as long as we walk any of these paths from the standpoint of freedom and awareness not by following a mandated path.

My(self) valentine

Can I feel the love in air for myself. Can I accept (my)Self with its conflicting ends. What being kind to myself does to me?

It’s all your fault!

I am responsible for myself and my growth. I own my actions. I take the responsibility of outcomes. Decide – Make tough choices and expand or live in cocoon of stale blame games.

Best way to teach

Is there any one best way to live life? If no then can there be one best way to teach. Children are dynamic and they need dynamic facilitation. Breadth of facilitation will provide depth to understand a child.

Winning the Kingdom of Fears

Don’t fear the fear. Some fears vanish with time and for some we may need to find our own unique ways to deal with it. To deal with fears of child let’s first connect with child than to connect with fears. Explore what kind of support we can provide to children so that they can find their own solutions.

I refuse to live out of conditioning

“I am conditioned” is like living in coffin. Living out of choices is like a river , always flowing. Enhance living out of choices by opening new windows and refusing to use existing ones.

See no evil, hear no evil and say no evil

Parents believe see-hear-say no evil” is best but child does see-hear-say evil. May be better option would be “think no evil”. Help child to decide what is good and evil and develop his own inside shield.

Fear – Hug it, Kiss it!

Emotions are neither good nor bad. They are not limiting rather they signal our inner state. How about embracing fear with an understanding.

Soiled by Adjectives

A verb implies action thus adds to the experience of a doer. An adjective implies perception. it may or may not be right. Create a limitless living of experience or create a prison of adjectives – Decide.

Intentions

There is a popular Buddha story, which goes like this: Once, when Buddha and his disciples were meditating, a man came up to Buddha and asked, “Are you meditating?” Buddha opened his eyes, smiled at the man and said, “Yes, I am, can we talk in afternoon”. Saying this Buddha closed his eyes. Later the […]

Kids follow parents?

Parents are not the only influencers in child’s life. They are a part of child’s surroundings. Shall we pay attention to “Will child follow me” or shall we facilitate an environment of exploration.

Missed the Flight? Catch the Train

Fly off the handle – so what? Let’s hop on to the train of reflection from the station of guilt. This slow journey will give ample time to shave better understanding of self.

Change your mindset and then your words

This makes sense for us as guide, facilitator or parents.We are often stuck in the situation where we find it difficult to change the mindset of the child. The child continues to think the way the child is thinking.Maybe changing our words may help them to look at things differently. For me, the first table […]

Thumb Sucking or Resourcefulness

Some of the habits (in the form of physical actions) serves the purpose of anchoring. These actions help us to calm down in troubled waters. Children are no different. Thumb sucking is one such habit.

Fundamental of Disciplining – Respect

Hierarchies create a social divide. Families are no different. Treat children at par. See them as fellow human being and interact with them with same respect as you would to any other adult and experience the magic.

The Myth of (bad) Habits

Each habit serve some purpose. Good or bad habits are relative perceptions. More often parents and children lock horn on habits because of this relative perception. Let’s question some of our beliefs around bad habit and burst the myth around bad habits.

How do I Get My Child to Comply?

Is it sometimes difficult getting your child to do what you want him or her to do? Do you often get exasperated over compliance? Did you wish you had some magic wand to get your child to follow you? Here is a piece of insight.

Winning the Kingdom of Fears

The Queen was quite worried. Her first son, the heir apparent, was a timid boy. To the Queen, at seven years, he seemed to be scared of everything — darkness, being alone, heights, depths, people, speed … sigh, the list was long. What to do? To make matters worse, the King seemed to not be […]

Are all Feelings Okay?

Can the sea decide what should be the height of tide or how forceful it is. similarly feelings arise and ebb naturally. Important is during those tide we sail with child to connect and provide an anchor of understanding.

A little Philosophy with children

Philosophy originates from from wondering, wandering and questioning. Not from seeking answers. Its is not slave of knowledge and procedure. May be children are best philosophers.