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It's all your fault!
We've all been in situations where we felt like we were treated unfairly.
Whether it's the referee making a wrong call against your team, whether it's your coach putting you on the bench in favor of a (seemingly) worse player or whether a club you try out for doesn't pick you, even though you felt you were good enough.
Situations like these come up again and again in our lives. And most of the time we handle them poorly. We feel hurt, we get angry and we blame everyone...but ourselves.
If only we knew that the quality of our lives is directly related to how we react in these moments. And that we always have the chance to take two steps forward after taking that one step back.
Nick shows you how to properly deal with being benched:
What to do when the coach plays favorites?
The alternative to feeling sorry for yourself or complaining about the coach is to take full responsibility for it. Really own it.
Yes, you might have actually been treated unfairly, but so what? There's no Prince Charming who's coming to save you.
Every time you're complaining about someone or something, you're effectively giving up control to outside forces. Like if you say, "My coach never plays me because he likes another player more.", you're essentially telling yourself that no matter how much you train / how good you get, you will never play.
How motivated will you be on Monday morning to put in an extra workout at the gym? Probably not very much, which means you're only hurting yourself.
Instead, you could be saying to yourself, "It's my fault that I'm sitting on the bench. My coach must have good reasons. I should ask him what I need to improve to start more matches."
This will immediately move the control from your coach to yourself. And you can make even more improvements, than if everything was easy and you would be starting every match.
Ex-Navy Seal commander, Jocko Willink, explains the concept of taking complete responsibility for everything in your life: Extreme Ownership