Tag: Unparenting
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How to Find Child’s Interests, Passions and Talents
How Do You Find Your Child’s Real Passion? (Spoiler: You Don’t) A lot of parents ask me, “How do I find my child’s real interest, real passion, real talent?” My answer to them is very simple: We don’t. Hi, I’m Ratnesh from Aarohi Life Education. After working with thousands of children, we have realized at…
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Three Ways to Effortlessly Develop Reading and Writing in Children
This article, while relevant to all audience, is specially important for families doing child based education or home schooling or Unschooling. Before we get into the exact three ways, there is a fundamental shift we need to make: we need to realize that reading and writing are not subjects. They are functional skills, and all…
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How do you solve the jigsaw puzzle called CHILD
Some parents ask me, don’t we all do child-based parenting? Aren’t we all the time child-based? So my response to the parents are, maybe not. Maybe we are not child-based. Maybe most of us are expectations-based. We operate from our own beliefs, our own anxieties, our own expectations from the child, from the future. We…
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Child-Based vs. Expectation-Based Parenting
Some parents ask me, don’t we all do child-based parenting? Aren’t we all the time child-based? So my response to the parents are, maybe not. Maybe we are not child-based. Maybe most of us are expectations-based. We operate from our own beliefs, our own anxieties, our own expectations from the child, from the future. We…
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DAD’s role in Unschooling, Home Schooling and even schooling
A lot of mothers frequently ask this question: What is the father’s role in unschooling and homeschooling? Hi, I am Ratnesh from Aarohi Life Education. I am also a father of two children who have grown up without any school or college degrees, and are now successful adults and professionals. To answer this question, let…
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Magic of Co-Creation: Shifting from Control to Partnership in Home Schooling UnSchooling
Often, when families choose homeschooling or unschooling as an educational path for their children, a common shift happens: somehow, everything is taken entirely into the parents’ hands. But true education is not about taking all the control into our hands. It is about co-creating with the child. In this whole journey, the child is an…
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Tied-Up Parent – OR – Unlimited Parent?
So, imagine that you tie yourself up to a chair. Yeah, nicely tie yourself up to a chair. What will happen? Now, once you are tied up to your chair, obviously you can’t move anywhere. In fact, go ahead and do this. Tie yourself up and see what happens. But you see, if you imagine,…
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The Democratic Home: When my son became the government
Like every household, our home has its focal points of argument. Sometimes it’s about chores, sometimes it’s about who will clean the spilled water, and very often it’s the classic: “Where is my ball? I kept it right here!” While discussing democracy and government with my son recently, I threw out a casual suggestion: “Why…
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Through Their Eyes: A Journey into Our Children’s World
Ever wondered what the world looks like through your Child’s eyes? At Aarohi DEEP, we recently conducted our Parent Circle with two “child consultants,” Neil and Prathati. Honestly, it was a reality check. It felt like a “slap” of realization that made us rethink our parenting perspective. If you are feeling the weight of being…
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The Vocabulary of Visual Silence
Every morning when I hear bird chirping in my balcony, instead of relishing the sound, my eyes invariably search for the bird on trees creating this melody. Unknowingly, in a fraction of a second my attention deviates from the sound to what all I see. That is the addiction of seeing – we want to…
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A letter to Boredom
We are so afraid of the silence in our children’s lives that we drown it out with noise. I fought Boredom, I snubbed it, and I hid from it. But when I finally stepped back, Boredom did something I never could: it gave my child a canvas
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Parental Fears
Parental fears are something you’ll overhear in any conversation among parents-whether it’s about careers, competition, or just keeping kids safe, parental fears are always working in the background. The other day, my son casually listed out some fears: arachnophobia (spiders), astraphobia (thunder and lightning), and phonophobia (loud sounds). “I can manage the rest,” he said,…
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How does my child manage my learning inability?
Our Open Learning journey is full of fun, surprises, and challenges. My biggest challenge as a parent is dealing with my internal conflict. It is like walking on a forked path always. One path leads to the safe environment of the “known” and family/friends. Another path is traversing a beautiful “unknown”. My mood for the…
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How to observe your child instead of judging? (with examples)
Observation vs Judgements vs Conclusions – what’s your lens? Currently, Aarohi Community is on a break after completing term 1. A big chunk of the break time is spent in each family reviewing their open learning journey during the last term.For the review, the parents as well as the child rate their own journey and…
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Nudge – A subtle tool for parents pursuing Open Learning
How gentle cues of our environment shape our behavior. We know them as Nudges. Let’s explore can we use Nudges to enhance open learning.
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Conquering Fears : “A Journey Through Rock Climbing”
We embarked on a thrilling journey through the rugged & raw landscapes as we explored outdoor rock climbing. We also explored the sheer joy of scaling heights, the natural beauty of nature, and the rawness that only outdoor can offer. ~ We planned in detail about having a safe & enjoyable experience for all.~ We…
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Children can be great mentors, this is what Learning Mela taught us
What happens when children mentor adults? Here’s the story….. It all started with a Santa seeding the idea of Learning Mela, 18+ year olds (adults) of the community would conduct the workshops and 18- year olds (young ones) would be the mentors to adults. All parents, teens and tweens of the community got together for…
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UnParenting lessons from SURFing
We recently went to a place near Mangalore to learn surfing on waves – children and us few adults. Here are some interesting Unparenting reflections.
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Confidence, Confidence, No Papa – ebook
Confidence is a myth. None of us need to bother ourselves or our children with this concept. You see the more we value this concept the more we devalue all the children (and people) who are seen or see themselves as not confident. Hence we’ve written in detail about confidence, in this small book primarily…
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Homeschooling journey – by Sharmila
Being part of a journey is more important than destination. If journey is joyous and satisfactory with all its ups and down , the destination may not be very different from it.
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Best way to teach
Is there any one best way to live life? If no then can there be one best way to teach. Children are dynamic and they need dynamic facilitation. Breadth of facilitation will provide depth to understand a child.
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Kids follow parents?
Parents are not the only influencers in child’s life. They are a part of child’s surroundings. Shall we pay attention to “Will child follow me” or shall we facilitate an environment of exploration.