Tag: Unparenting

  • Children can be great mentors, this is what Learning Mela taught us

    Children can be great mentors, this is what Learning Mela taught us

    What happens when children mentor adults? Here’s the story….. It all started with a Santa seeding the idea of Learning Mela, 18+ year olds (adults) of the community would conduct the workshops and 18- year olds (young ones) would be the mentors to adults. All parents, teens and tweens of the community got together for…

  • UnParenting lessons from SURFing

    We recently went to a place near Mangalore to learn surfing on waves – children and us few adults. Here are some interesting Unparenting reflections.

  • Confidence, Confidence, No Papa – ebook

    Confidence, Confidence, No Papa – ebook

    Confidence is a myth. None of us need to bother ourselves or our children with this concept. You see the more we value this concept the more we devalue all the children (and people) who are seen or see themselves as not confident. Hence we’ve written in detail about confidence, in this small book primarily…

  • Homeschooling journey – by Sharmila

    Being part of a journey is more important than destination. If journey is joyous and satisfactory with all its ups and down , the destination may not be very different from it.

  • Teach your child how to Lie

    Do children Lie or they justify at that moment? If there is nobody to Lie to or no reason to Lie to – Where will be the need to Lie?

  • Bad Company

    Universe gives us an opportunity to understand life by exposing us to the company of “The good, The bad and The Ugly”. Let’s take the bulls of Bad and Ugly by horns.

  • Do you want child to be successful?

    How do we define Success? When do we feel that we are successful in life? How do we reach to that milestone of success? What do we do once we achieve that success?

  • Best way to teach

    Is there any one best way to live life? If no then can there be one best way to teach. Children are dynamic and they need dynamic facilitation. Breadth of facilitation will provide depth to understand a child.

  • See no evil, hear no evil and say no evil

    Parents believe see-hear-say no evil” is best but child does see-hear-say evil. May be better option would be “think no evil”. Help child to decide what is good and evil and develop his own inside shield.

  • Fear – Hug it, Kiss it!

    Emotions are neither good nor bad. They are not limiting rather they signal our inner state. How about embracing fear with an understanding.

  • Soiled by Adjectives

    A verb implies action thus adds to the experience of a doer. An adjective implies perception. it may or may not be right. Create a limitless living of experience or create a prison of adjectives – Decide.

  • Kids follow parents?

    Parents are not the only influencers in child’s life. They are a part of child’s surroundings. Shall we pay attention to “Will child follow me” or shall we facilitate an environment of exploration.

  • Missed the Flight? Catch the Train

    Fly off the handle – so what? Let’s hop on to the train of reflection from the station of guilt. This slow journey will give ample time to shave better understanding of self.

  • Fundamental of Disciplining – Respect

    Hierarchies create a social divide. Families are no different. Treat children at par. See them as fellow human being and interact with them with same respect as you would to any other adult and experience the magic.

  • How do I Get My Child to Comply?

    Is it sometimes difficult getting your child to do what you want him or her to do? Do you often get exasperated over compliance? Did you wish you had some magic wand to get your child to follow you? Here is a piece of insight.

  • The Myth of (bad) Habits

    Each habit serve some purpose. Good or bad habits are relative perceptions. More often parents and children lock horn on habits because of this relative perception. Let’s question some of our beliefs around bad habit and burst the myth around bad habits.

  • Thumb Sucking or Resourcefulness

    Some of the habits (in the form of physical actions) serves the purpose of anchoring. These actions help us to calm down in troubled waters. Children are no different. Thumb sucking is one such habit.

  • Myth of the misbehaved child

    Are the behavior and character same? Does a misbehave make me a bad person? All of us are work in progress so why to bother child for their misbehavior. Rather give them the gift of understanding and help them to flourish.

  • Acceptance Frames

    Does a bad behavior indicates bad intention? No, it does not. Behind any behavior the intention is always good. Focus on change of specific action will be fruitful than judging the intention. Accept intentions and guide for actions.

  • To Know or To Understand

    Knowing is mechanical. The result is out there once you know Understanding is like craftsmanship. More you practice more your craft will improve and more the craft piece will become better. So understand the child, knowing is not enough.

  • A map of Habits of mind

    A great deal of success depends on Habits of mind not on the academics alone. Explore various Habits of mind. Experience each day living with one habit and see how it impacts you and child.

  • The Love Story of Values and Rules

    Rules and Values have their love story to share. They are inseparable. Let’s all interpret this love story individually. Rules do not limit us, they actually let us spend time to focus on things that we really value.

  • Who am I?

    We parents take our role of being child’s driver to seriously . Instead we just create the spark and let children create that fire the way they want. Most fun (un)parenting is being a mirror for the child.

  • 10 Mistakes in Education

    Do our schools really impart an education which will create an individual or they believe in herd mentality. Also as parent what are our beliefs about education. Here we question some beliefs.

  • Express not Impress

    True connection is honest communication not by creating a façade. Express so that children feel their importance in the family. Don’t seclude them from your being human.

  • What is Sex

    We are more curious to know about things which are not talked openly or not visible. The word “Sex” is no different. Our dilemma, fears and beliefs add more to child’s confusion. Explore how can we break this taboo.

  • The Learning Journey of Child abuse

    Adults play an active role in educating child about sexual abuses. Instead of shying away, sensitize and empower them. Be part of this education which will protect children from such abuses.

  • Operating manual of your child

    Children are not the product which can be operated with the help of a manual. Yet children expect us to deal with them in a specific. Let’s explore what parenting manual will children give us.

  • On gender bias

    We carry the legacy of gender based environment. We behave similarly based on similar beliefs. Instead of talking about gender based stuff , let’s create an ecosystem which enrich their thinking and experiences.

  • I am my favorite

    Every role we play in child’s life as parent or teacher in the name of upbringing or education, they have those traits built in. The need is allow them to see these traits by themselves and create a life of their own.