Helpmates - Needs or Behaviour!

HELPMATES - a system where we take help of community to resolve our social issues. We all agree that we all have some or other habit / actions / behaviour which can be annoying to others or even frustrating and stressful. Helpmates brings one of the opportunity to express to the community. 
Two kids complainant for each other "hitting, using inappropriate words, bullying each other, playing pranks, hitting each other...".
The community participated and asked questions to them to clarify. The clarification and expression brought an opportunity to understand "they realized that both are harming each other, both are also good friends, both are covering each other and not bringing norray in thought club". 
We then explored "what are the needs of both them behind these behaviours".
Some felt the need of inclusion as most kids were accusing each other for their behaviour (some feel one is bossy while other is dirty).
Some felt that the need of power, 
Some felt the need of appreciation, and suggested to work and get inner self appreciation
Some felt the need of fun and suggested them to find fun in doing
Some felt the need of excessive energy and suggested them to play sports to take out that energy positively
 
None needed to commit "We play with them so they feel inclusive".
None needed to give them punishment to behave properly