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How Do You Find Your Child’s Real Passion? (Spoiler: You Don’t)
A lot of parents ask me, “How do I find my child’s real interest, real passion, real talent?”
My answer to them is very simple: We don’t.
Hi, I’m Ratnesh from Aarohi Life Education. After working with thousands of children, we have realized at Aarohi that children find their own interests, talents, and passions.
In fact, if we make the mistake of trying to find the child’s interest for them, we typically get very excited the moment they show even a little bit of curiosity. The child says, “I want to play football,” and suddenly we start seeing Ronaldo in our boy.
The Danger of Getting Too Excited
The problem with getting too caught up in a child’s passing interest is twofold:
- We steal the ownership: We start doing all the thinking, all the planning, and all the getting excited.
- We create pressure: In the midst of all our adult excitement, we start building expectations. What the child started as a simple exploration for themselves suddenly becomes a very big deal.
This is exactly why so many parents complain to me: “You know, my child said they liked music, so I put them into a music class. Then they just left it in the middle and I lost all my money.”
That happens because the class—and our reaction—comes with a heavy load of expectations (not all classes, of course, but typically).
The True Path to Discovery: Let Them Explore
So, how do we find a child’s interest? By letting the child find it themselves.
This is the age of exploration. The child will explore one thing, then another thing, and then something else entirely. That is completely normal.
Eventually, one of two things will happen:
- The child will come to you and explicitly say, “This is something that really interests me.”
- They won’t say a word, but they will show it to you through their dedication.
How Parents Can Respond Better
When your child finally shows a deep interest in something, that is your cue to sit back and enjoy it—not to get hyper-excited and start planning a career out of it.
A Better Perspective: You can still be happy and think, “Ah, my child is showing interest in something.” That’s good enough! Now, just enjoy it for as long as it lasts. Treat it like a good movie or a great web series.
An interest doesn’t need to go on forever to be valuable. Some passions will stay with them for life; others will not. That really is a child’s life. Let him or her live it.
Thank you.
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