“It is impossible to not learn what you want to learn”
He asked in a meek tone, during one of our online meet ups, “Sir, My dad wants me to speak English fluently. Is there a possibility?”
We all pondered, what did the question even mean and all of us answered in unison – Of Course! We went about sharing how when one has the desire to learn something, it often leads to an accelerated pace of exploration and immersion in that area. But, if one doesn’t want to learn then all the difficulties arise.
He was asked in return – “Do YOU want to learn English?”
Prompt came the reply, “Yes I do but I am UNCONFIDENT” and instantly, all of us sighed in unison.
Haven’t we all been in this flux at some point? Having a strong desire but being held back due to the lack of confidence. The fear of not being confident looms so large in front of us, almost blinding us to the point of non-action.
For some, it can go to the extreme of not being able to start a new project, undertake a new hobby, learn something new, talk in public because we were not CONFIDENT in that moment!
While it is easy to talk about confidence once the tide has passed but what is one supposed to do when faced with this monster called ‘Confidence’.
Next time, you feel under confident about something, ask yourself these 3 simple questions –
- Did anyone every start anything being confident right from the start?
- Do you have a strong desire to do this activity?
- Does an infant ever think they are not confident to take the first step?
Everybody who wants to learn something starts from being unconfident. Confidence is the last stage, you begin any learning with a ‘Desire’. If you have a desire there are no problems, there is only an excitement to keep going at it irrespective of the successes or failures.
So, stay unconfident and jump into the pool of learning and start doing. The swimming will happen eventually.