As parents—especially as homeschoolers and unschoolers—we tend to hold what is right and what is wrong as very important. When a child does something right, we say, “Yeah, this is right!” We are happy, and we want more of it. And when the child does something wrong, according to us, then we want to change it, we want to fix it, we want to do something about it, and we get caught up in that.
You see, this sounds more like being a businessman. You only want profits; you don’t want loss. We make the whole thing a business. The whole learning, education, growing up, parenting, homeschooling, and unschooling kind of becomes a business. And then it loses its charm—because the child becomes our business.
But what if we were to not think of things in terms of right and wrong, but in terms of just action, or what is happening? Let’s call it a situation.
If we think, “Yes, this is a situation,” then the most important element is the child in that situation. Instead of getting into the right and the wrong, can we ask ourselves:
- What’s the child thinking?
- What is the child doing?
- What is the child feeling?
- What is the motivation, encouragement, or intention that the child is bringing?
If we see all of these, then suddenly, we see the child. Yeah. Now there is no business. Now there is only the child. And then there is a lot more to grow, a lot more to understand, a lot more to enjoy, to celebrate, and to connect to the child with.
The choice is ours: business or child.
Have a nice day.
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